Don’t should on yourself.
I should exercise more. I should eat better. I should sleep more. I should. I should. I should.
Someone told me “I should” write down a two column list.
Wants vs. Shoulds
I want a cookie. I should eat a salad.
I want a new pair of jeans. I should save my money.
I want to be thinner. I should go to the gym.
Sooooo…why am I doing this?
Why shouldn’t we should on ourselves?
The message that we are receiving is that we are judging ourselves. Do we like to feel judged? Not effective. Not helpful. Not self-compassionate.
We SHOULD LOVE ourselves.